Making a decision isn't easy. From what shoes to wear, to what to have for dinner, to where to live, to what you want to do for the rest of your life... Life is made up of choices you're forced to make.
The weight of an unmade decision is crushing. I should know. I procrastinate. I waffle. I'm extremely analytical, so I tend to over-think things. How should I know if I'm doing the right thing? What if, in some weird, Ashton-Kutcher-Butterfly-Effect way, I make the wrong choice and it sends my life careening in some horrible direction? These are the things that are always running through my mind. It's exhausting.
And it's not as though I've never made stupid decisions. Oh, BELIEVE ME. I have. I've muddled through so far, but I always wonder how much longer the luck is going to hold. I worry that one day it'll all come back to bite me right in the posterior.
In the end, all you can do is make the decision that rests well with your soul. I recently made a big decision about the direction of my life. Such a rush of relief and feeling of peace came along with my choice that I knew I'd chosen wisely. I had been trying to force it, trying to justify to myself that I would be doing the right thing by choosing Option A... or B... or C. But it was in that moment that I let go of trying to do what other people thought I should--what I had convinced myself I should--I realized that following my gut was the best guide I could have.
Don't follow your heart. Love is blind, deaf and dumb. It leads you astray sometimes. The thing about love is that if it's meant to be, it will work out how it's supposed to. Love nearly led me to a place I didn't want to be.
Don't follow your head. Your head spends too much time thinking, scheming, analyzing, worrying, arguing, reasoning, absorbing... you get the picture. It's not clear up there. There are so many details and bits of information swirling around, it's impossible to truly feel at ease when a big choice is made with the head.
Do follow your gut. That's the place where your subconscious resides. It has distilled all the swirling notions in your head and the glow in your heart into clarity--the thing that will be best for you.
With decision--the right decision--comes relief and peace, a stillness after the tempestuous process of reaching it.
What big decisions are you struggling with? And what are you waiting for?
I try to focus on those rare wonderful moments of bliss when I feel so at peace and in sync with the world, and remember that that moment is the result of a lifetime of decisions, big and small.
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